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Have you ever had a boss who seemed to be the devil himself or the devil’s sister? No matter what you did or how well you did it, it just was not good enough. Did you dread going to work because you knew that you were going to have to deal with this person?
You are not alone.
According to the Harvard Business Review, ” A study by the American Psychological Association found that 75% of Americans say their “boss is the most stressful part of their workday.”
Here are some tips to help you with your difficult boss:
Take a step back and evaluate yourself
Evaluate yourself to make sure that you are doing your job to the best of your ability. Remember that most managers answer to someone higher in the organization. A manager’s job performance evaluation is highly based on their ability to ensure their subordinates are abiding by company policies and completing their job duties.
If you, as an employee, do not abide by the rules of the company or fail to complete your job duties; you may be causing your boss to stress. This may be the reason for your boss’s behavior.
If you determine that you are not doing your best, change your behavior to see if that helps. Make a conscious effort to abide by the company’s rules. Do your best to complete your job duties.
If you are experiencing obstacles in completing your job duties, speak to your boss about it. A good boss will appreciate your honesty and offer suggestions to help you.
Determine what makes your boss a bad boss
In my situation, I came to the conclusion that my previous boss had an issue with women.
There were other incidents, but the final straw for me occurred one morning prior to our daily meeting. My boss informed me that I had to move to different office immediately. I had to move a lot of heavy items, and he didn’t even offer to help.
Another employee helped me to complete my move in time for me to attend our morning meeting. This boss, who didn’t help me move, yelled at me in front of all of the other employees because I failed to update a board prior to the meeting.
He knew that I was moving to a new office prior to the meeting that morning, and he knew that I did not have time to update the board before the meeting. I felt disrespected and embarrassed.
Prior to this incident, my boss ran into his office, slammed the door, and drew the blinds when a female supplier came by for a visit. Before I left the company, another female supplier complained that my boss yelled at her.
When I heard that he yelled at someone else of the female persuasion, it was enough to convince me that he had an issue with women.
Just to make sure that I was not misevaluating the situation, I became extremely observant of how he treated his male subordinates.
As you can guess, he never yelled at them in front of others. He spoke calmly to them and called private meetings with them if he was displeased with their behavior.
This list is not all inclusive, but you may have a bad boss if:
- 1. He or she belittles you or makes you feel disrespected.
- 2. He or she shows obvious favortism.
- 3. You receive bad evaluations even though you are abiding by company rules and you are completing your job duties in a timely manner
Once you determine that you indeed have a bad boss:
1) Decide if you are actually a victim of something more extreme such as discrimination or harassment.
According to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, there are laws that protect employees and job applicants against employment discrimination when it involves:
- Unfair treatment because of race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy, gender identity, and sexual orientation), national origin, age (40 or older), disability or genetic information.
- Harassment by managers, co-workers, or others in the workplace, because of race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy), national origin, age (40 or older), disability or genetic information.
- Denial of a reasonable workplace accommodation that the employee needs because of religious beliefs or disability.
- Retaliation because the employee complained about job discrimination, or assisted with a job discrimination investigation or lawsuit.
If you feel your issue falls into a category of discrimination or harassment, contact the EEOC and they can advise you as to whether you can move forward in filing a claim.
Remember, you must have proof to support your claim. Determine if there are witnesses that will provide statements on your behalf. You may have to begin recording your interactions with your boss in order to gather proof.
2. Review your company’s policies
Review your company’s handbook to see if there are policies or procedures to address your issue.
My current employer has a policy in place that states that all employees will be treated fairly and with respect. This policy outlines the steps that an employee should take if he or she feels they are not being treated fairly or with respect. In addition, the corporate office provides a hotline number for employees to report such issues.
3. Establish if you can address the issue directly with your boss
If you do not feel that your issue falls into the categories of discrimination or harassment, and your company does not have policies in place to address such issues; you may want to try and address the issues directly with your boss. If possible, use your conflict resolution skills to address and resolve your issues directly with your boss.
If you do not feel comfortable in speaking with your boss alone, see if there is another employee that will sit in on the meeting. If there is not another employee that is willing to sit in, you can record the meeting with your boss. To be transparent, you must inform your boss that you are recording the conversation.
4. Report the issue to human resources or someone higher in the organization
If you are not able to address the issue directly with your boss, determine if you can report the issue to someone higher in your organization.
Before you do this, make sure that you have a valid concern and that you can support your claims.
5.Find another job
If all else fails, you may determine that it is best to seek employment elsewhere.
For my own peace of mind, I elected to seek employment elsewhere because there were numerous incidents that occurred. In addition, I felt that my job was in danger.
My insecurity stemmed from the fact that the management at my old job fired an employee when he claimed that a supervisor was picking on him due to his race.
I do not regret leaving my old job behind. I now work for a better company, i have a better boss, and my job is closer to my home.
How did you resolve your issues with your boss? What other advice can you offer to others who are dealing with a bad boss?
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